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What is a writing domme?

I created The Writing Domme after stubbornly scribbling my way through a miserable pandemic year of dissertation writing. That experience prompted me to think differently about writing, to read a lot of books on writing, and to make significant changes to my own writing practices. I launched The Writing Domme one year post-PhD, in the Spring of 2022. My coaching style and curriculum evolved organically from the lessons I’ve learned the hard way…

The title “Writing Domme” has a certain energy and intensity about it but I want to be clear that my coaching style isn’t about muscling through, forcing you to write for hours on end, or to write a certain way. Go ahead and put on your hair shirt or kneel on grains of rice if you want, but that’s not part of my coaching practice. What my coaching does have in common with erotic domination is that it’s an intentional, collaborative ritual grounded in clear communication, open-mindedness, and the potential for cathartic, transformational change. Like power exchange, good coaching isn’t afraid of the deep dive or unconventional methods.

I am open to working with writers of all stripes, at any stage in their writing journey. As writing domme my intention is to demystify the writing process, provide individualized support for writers who are struggling to meet their goals, and help writers figure out sustainable writing rituals and processes that work for their needs and circumstances. Few of us actually have our dream writing setup – whether that’s bottomless coffee and cigarettes at a cafe in Paris, or journaling in a hand-bound notebook in the middle of the forrest, or simply a quiet half hour at home with no screaming kids. Through coaching, workshops, seminars and virtual co-working spaces I help my fellow writers examine their needs, goals and methods and find the rituals and practices that will enable them to work consistently, productively and with as much ease as possible.

Here are some common writing issues I’m well-equipped to provide support and insights around:

getting started

creating a system that works

writing rituals

writing in community

protecting your writing time and space


completing projects

time management


imposter syndrome

writer's block

writing anxiety

My services are geared towards process and productivity rather than content. I am not an editor. I’m a writing coach and a process expert. With these offerings I aim to help you cut through the distractions, anxieties and anything else that gets in the way of writing so that you can return to the root of your drive and fall back in love with your craft.